From a young age without us even realizing, ideas of so-called “perfection” have been planted in our heads and our thoughts, brainwashing us into thinking we need to alter how we look in order to be looked upon as beautiful and feel beautiful. It’s as though we are no longer comfortable within our own skin, and are always looking for ways to make improvements and changes to our psychical appearance.
I cannot help but place blame at the hands of magazines, media companies, make up brands, cosmetic surgeries and social media. You cannot open a magazine without seeing a perfectly photo shopped women, with the perfect hair, perfect skin, perfect nails, perfect body, perfect teeth and so on…. but I ask one question – who said this was perfect? Who has taken this stereotypical look and blasted it as “THE LOOK” – the look we all must follow? Because, quite frankly – I think this look is one thing – BULLSHIT.
It concerns and worries me at how much this is a thing lately, and how many girls, women, boys and men feel the pressures. I have felt them myself. I find my self saying, “ahh, I wanna get my lips done” – “I wanna get my boobs done” – “Omg I need her eyebrows” – I am first hand guilty of having these thoughts of alterations, that I think I need to make to myself.
But why? Why am I really thinking this? Is it because I have always wanted to change these things about me, or is it because scrolling through Instagram has left me thinking I want to look like that. The later is the reality.
We think changing ourselves will make us happier, but you should never have to change yourself in order to find happiness. Happiness is deeper than image and materialism.
I do not think there is anything wrong with choosing to have cosmetic surgeries done, or wanting to achieve a certain look – but it has to be something that YOU ACTUALLY want to do, something that will actually give you more confidence. There is always things we do not like about ourselves, that we really want to change. But remember there is a very fine line between doing something because we have always wanted too, or doing it because we feel we need to because it’s how we “should” look.
When I went travelling to Australia, no one there was bothered about getting dressed up, putting loads of makeup on, making a massive effort, it was chilled and relaxed, and I cannot stress enough how much of a difference it makes you feel! I went from always stressing about how I looked, to bunging my hair up, going makeup free and not giving a single shit. And GUESS WHAT – NO ONE CARED.
Coming back to my hometown, I cant help but notice how much Image matters, it’s as though everyone is a clone of one another, and we have forgotten who we really are.
I never remember wanting to look or be a certain way when I was a child, I was more concerned with playing out, making up games and being a KID. Fast forward to now and Society has massively changed, I observe children now and their childhood reflects nothing of which mine did. Young girls are looking and acting older than their years, wearing makeup, worrying about their weight & what they are wearing. How can we blame them for doing this? When it’s pushed in their faces everywhere they look…
I want everyone to realize that there is nothing, and absolutely NOTHING wrong with being YOU, you are beautiful without making changes, without making alterations. You ARE enough. Natural is BEAUTIFUL, and Natural is noticed and Natural stands out.
There is more to life then Image. So – Embrace being you, embrace your beauty, embrace your imperfections and embrace your flaws, all of what you have, makes YOU, YOU.
Do not fall into the trap of Society, because society is UGLY you are NOT.